It's been awhile since I've written anything of substance, so here goes.
Who are your friends? How many friends do you have? What types of friends are they?
I ask because I was talking with my mom about not feeling like I had any close friends that live by me anymore. I mean, I have acquaintances up here in my new city that I like, but none that I've gotten BFF close with. When I used to live in North Salt Lake I had girlfriends. When I lived in Moscow I had some BFF's. But I can't seem to make friends up here. It's weird, right?
My mom expressed some of the same concerns with making friends. She hasn't moved from her house since 1987, and that's a lot of time to make friends, but she was always more concerned with our family (I came from a family with 10 kids). I suggested that she start a club. The "My last kid is going to kill me club". She thought I should start doing a book club like I always want to.
I want your opinions. How do you make close friends? I can take constructive criticism on ways that I have scared you off if you've wanted to be my friend. Really. I need the help! This is a desperate cry for opinions and ideas, not ego boosts! Really.
5 comments:
I hope I was one of your BFF from Moscow? I wish we lived closer you are a great friend Anna Banana!!!!!! We love you!!!!
When I lived in Sugar House, I used to invite a few people over for lunch. Just a random quick bring your kids kind of thing. But it really helped.
I think it gets harder when your kids are older, though, because you're busier. running around and stuff.
I like you. Wish we could hang out more like we used to!
You are so amazing and fun to be around, I wish I lived closer to you!
I'm always looking for a BFF when I move, so I watch and see if there is anyone who I think, thinks like me and might be wanting a friend too. Then I ask them out to something. Soon I have a BFF. For me the trick is looking for a friend and acting on it.
Good Hunting!
Love Aunt Alisa
I'm feeling the same way! So, I had to sneak a look at these comments, but I guess it always comes down to the fact that we really need to make time and effort to have friendships, and sometimes it takes awhile to really bond and be totally comfortable with someone
I have had to really think about this also. I have met many great woman, some that I really care about now. But it takes time, more time than ever before to come that far. Knowing that things change all the time to everyone, know that eventually one of us will move or something defiently changes the dynamics. It has brought me closer to my husband and my children, and has helped me learn that there are great people and fun times to be had, but what matters most is our family.
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